9 reasons why so many strong women end up with weak men
We’ve all seen beautiful, smart, successful women who never seem to find men even close to their caliber. For one reason or another, it seems like the best women out there often inexplicably end up with abusers, scammers, and losers. You might even have noticed someone who fits that cliché who just decided to give up dating.
Have you ever wondered why strong women always seem to struggle so hard when it comes to finding healthy relationships?
Well it’s probably a mix of things. As someone who has taken years to ask the same question, I have actually found a number of reasons why this is happening.
Here are 9 common reasons strong women end up in toxic relationships with weak men:
1. Strong men tend to want to take care of others, and many strong women just don’t give in to that
Many women who pride themselves on being strong exude an unapproachable vibe. Unfortunately, this tends to drive off strong men who would be a good match for them if given a chance. However, this often happens completely unconsciously.
2. Strong women quickly come across as reserved
That’s partly because of how they tend to get burned out in love and how hard it is to actually be strong enough to handle a relationship. Unfortunately, if you can no longer open yourself up to love in a healthy way, you don’t stand much of a chance of having romantic success with anyone.
3. There are a few reasons weak men want a strong woman
Weak men are often looking for one of three things: a Sugar Mama, a trophy, or someone to control. The reason many weak men want to control a strong woman in particular is because some of them can only feel so “great”.
The reason they want a strong woman as a trophy is because they hope that other people will see them as strong because of who they are dating.
4. There are few reasons a man would want a very independent woman
Men want to be needed. Unfortunately, strong, successful, independent women don’t need a man. Unfortunately, this isn’t necessarily something that men are good with, and it shows. Their ego feels hurt because they are not needed by their wife.
5. Strong women are a magnet for both strong and weak men
Most emotionally strong women have many qualities that make them attractive to all men. But there are far more weak men out there than strong men, and they are more apt to approach her and say or do anything to worm her way into her heart. Most of the time, a weak man makes it before she finds out what type of guy he really is.
6. Women don’t find the same things attractive in their partner that men find in their partner
It might be frustrating to realize, but it’s true. When looking for a marriage partner, most men don’t really care about the traits of strength and success that women have. A brilliant career and a lively social life are a sign of strength and stability in the eyes of women.
These can be impressive feats for men, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they want to date a woman because of such factors unless they do so with specific ulterior motives.
7. We all have different ideas about what strength is
One of the most confusing things men do is compliment a woman who may not seem so strong at first glance. But you have to think like a guy to understand why this is happening. There is strength in individuality. In independence lies strength.
But the truth is, strength is in the eye of the beholder. Many women see independence as a sign of strength. For men, on the other hand, nurturing may be a stronger accomplishment. That’s often why men refer to a woman who you might consider weak as “inspirational” in his eyes.
8. Weak men also tend to become more popular when chasing after a woman, unlike strong men
The weakest, most insecure men are often the most aggressive when it comes to stalking a woman, as well as the loudest when it comes to talking about why they’re awesome. With all the noise they make, it’s not surprising that they put the really strong people who are interested in strong women to shame.
9. Women who are highly sought after tend to lose “sensitivity” when it comes to flirting
Strong women often can’t tell a man is flirting with them unless he makes it really, really obvious. It just doesn’t register even if a guy checks them out. So part of the problem can be that strong women just don’t notice the good men around them who are trying to get their attention.
Overall, there are many factors that make it difficult for strong, successful women to find a good partner. It’s a mixed bag, but the truth is, strength makes you a better person. One thing you need to realize, however, is that it’s not your fault. There are no flaws on your part; It’s an innate problem with what men want.
Even though it can be frustrating at times, don’t give up. However, it is often better to be alone than to be with someone who feeds on your power.