Emotional Distance – The beginning of every breakup

Nowadays, many couples separate again after a short time? Somehow it seems as if the influence of the throwaway society is also being transferred to our relationships. But how does that actually happen? 

Is the distance that can develop between two partners really the reason for almost every breakup?   One might think that there can be many reasons why a couple break up. But if you think about it more closely, then there could really be something to it! Because if you go back to the origin, the distance between the couple is actually always the main reason why they break up in the end. Also Read (The Ultimate 8 Week Plan to Get Through Any Breakup)

And then the exchange just didn’t happen…

The distance ensures that you no longer feel close to your partner. And if you don’t feel close anymore, it can quickly happen that you stop talking about the topics that are important to the relationship but may be very uncomfortable or challenging. Then at some point it may even happen that you no longer talk about the small things in everyday life and you just grow apart. This can also lead to being dissatisfied in the relationship and more likely to cheat on your partner. Or you almost only argue and hardly have any nice moments together. 

When the couple stops communicating, the partner’s actions can often be misinterpreted. In this way, negative thoughts about the partner creep in, which become more and more solidified in the subconscious. Behind all these things there can be the distance that usually slowly covers the partnership like a veil.

Is separation the only way out?

Of course not! There is something you can do about it and make sure a breakup doesn’t happen if you want to avoid it.

Basically, you should make sure that there is no distance between you and your partner. Sure, that sounds a lot easier than it looks in reality. How do you set that up? How do you create closeness to partners? 

It is important that you realize that this is not only about the physical, but also about the emotional closeness to your partner. This gives you less room for separation and you can build a healthy partnership in the long term. So try never to lose sight of this point. It’s about spending time together and having conversations. You can make plans together and reflect on the past or set new goals.

The emotional closeness to the partner

In order to build more emotional closeness to your partner, it usually only takes small things. These can be questions like, “How was your day?” Ask him about what he’s been up to and if he’s feeling good. You can also ask if he wants anything from you or if he wants to talk about anything.

This daily exchange creates a basis that gives you both more trust in each other. Try to open up and reveal your deepest feelings so that he tries to open up as well. It’s much easier for men to talk about their feelings when the woman takes a step toward them first. 

In order to actively listen, the other person should ask questions and pay full attention to the partner. The more you practice this, the faster you will reach a deeper exchange and be able to talk about broader topics, such as your personal dreams and aspirations in life. All of this creates more emotional closeness and thus prevents distance between you and your partner, which in turn protects you better against a breakup. 

The physical closeness to the partner

But physical closeness is also an important point if you want to avoid distance in your relationship. With physical affection and small gestures, you show that you love your partner. For men, by the way, actions are usually much more meaningful than words. Look deep into his eyes or just take his hand. Give him a hug and tell him that you care about him. 

Of course s*x is part of it! This intimate gathering is usually underestimated. This is the best way to express your love for your partner without words. At the same time, it is also important to talk about expectations and wishes and to work together on your s*x life.

As you can see, the physical and emotional closeness in a couple is not far apart. However, the one can definitely exclude the other. It can be the case, for example, that you still understand each other emotionally, but your s*x life has died down. That’s a shame, of course, because both levels are relevant to a relationship. Words cannot replace this intimate encounter that a couple experiences during s*x. 

That’s why you should definitely pay attention to both levels and try to build more closeness to your partner. So try to talk openly with your partner about these topics. Appreciative communication is of course a prerequisite. It might be awkward to talk about these things at first, but you’ll see that it’ll be worth it in the end.