People leave our lives quite often. However, those who have already become close to us bring the greatest pain: these are parents, friends, relatives, and, of course, loved ones in the form of our partners.
However, any crack in a relationship happens for a reason. Let’s be honest, in order to bring any person to pick up a suitcase and leave, a series of quite negative events must occur. At least if your loved one loved you as much as you loved him.
If he leaves just like that and you don’t understand why thinking only that he is either mad with fat or trying to prove something, then you shouldn’t return him.
In this case, it will fly like a boomerang itself, if it has feelings for you and when it comes to its senses. And if not, then why do you need an egoist who has not yet grown from children’s pants?
In the event that the breakup was quite painful, if not only you but also your partner are experiencing it, then most likely you have not yet gone through the lessons that should be learned in a relationship. And this parting helps you quickly understand in which direction you need to look and move.
And so, if your breakup happened on the basis of the push of the Universe and karmic lessons, then in order to return your loved one, you can do only 3 things.
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Stop being a victim
Recognize the perfection in the situation you currently have in your life. Recognize the goodness of breaking up with your loved one. After all, this gap teaches you very important things. And it is because of this gap that you have the opportunity and time to better know yourself and your problems. Stop blaming the whole world, cry into your pillow and consider yourself a victim.
Whether you see the glass half empty or half full is up to you. No one wishes you harm, all the environment that trips you up and hurts you is actually teaching you something incredibly important. Why with pain? Alas, in a pleasant environment you did not want to change, although the Universe gave you a lot of chances for this.
Pay attention within yourself
You look around and talk about how bad all your offenders are, how unfair life is and how a loved one could leave you. After all, you love him, it’s hard for you without him, why did he leave, why did he change his attitude towards you so drastically.
Stop thinking about external signs, direct your attention inward, deep into yourself. It is there that all the answers to your questions lie, you just need to ask the right question. In fact, you have known for a long time where the mistake was made in the game and how to correct it. However, it is necessary to work not on the external, but on the internal.
Start changing
Change yourself every day. Little by little. The painful experience with the fact that a loved one left you did not just happen. It means that something inside of you hurts, bleeds, and that is why any relationship is doomed to failure. They cannot be harmonious, because there is no harmony within you. Ideally, if you start living a more conscious life, read books such as “Radical Forgiveness” and “Radical Love” by Koling Tipping.
Also try to meditate at least once a day, pay attention to your diet, bad habits, go in for sports, or just a hobby that brings you satisfaction and lights a fire inside. Walk more often and finally love and accept yourself, including your inner little child. After all, it is he who cries at night, once again remembering how he was abandoned.
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