For most women, the difficulty in their love life isn’t getting to know men or building an attraction, but rather creating that deep connection and storm of strong emotions and powerful feelings that takes things from the casual dating stage to solid to move romantic relationship.
In short, it is all about understanding the basic points of how you can make your man fall deeply to fall in love with you by first getting him to feel emotionally connected to you.
This transition can be a problematic point for many women who don’t seem to get beyond casual dating – and who, with the best of intentions, don’t know why.
This is not because men are “attachment phobics” as so many would have you believe. Rather, it’s because a man just didn’t feel deeply connected to them on an emotional level.
As we all know, physical attraction diminishes over time, and the relationship depends on the quality of our emotional bond with one another – or the lack of one.
What does emotional connection mean?
To understand this question, you first need to know what an emotional bond is. Emotional attachment depends on your feelings of closeness and affection in relationships that help make them last for a long time.
Emotional attachment is very important in human connection.
How do you know if it’s love or an emotional bond?
Lasting love is always based on a healthy bond, but both are not the same. Love is about support and mutual giving. You don’t love someone for what they can do or offer.
The healthy bonding that is part of love is about someone who can meet your needs for intimacy, togetherness, and reassurance.
How do you know if someone is emotionally connected?
Signs to look out for include: if he really enjoys hanging out with you, always calls you or texts you often, or if he has made a commitment not to meet anyone else and be exclusive with you.
The difference between healthy and unhealthy attachment is about disruptions in your life.
Is it bad to be emotionally conneted to anyone?
If you feel like you are dependent on his presence and attention, and your thoughts obsessively revolve around him, then this is a sign of unhealthy emotional attachment.
A healthy emotional bond is about spending as much time as possible with your partner as well as alone. You two have a lot in common in life, but you both also know how to do certain things separately, like time with your friends or time with your families, and time for self-care.
Sometimes a time for you without your partner is also good for your mental health.
Here are 5 ways you can get a man to fall deeply in love with you and become emotionally attached to you without playing games.
1. Be with him for who he is, not for his potential.
Everyone wants to be accepted and loved for who they are, but many women make the mistake of dating a man because of his potential, the man he could be in 5 years.
When you put the expectation on a man that he will change, he will feel like you don’t see him for who he is. Some men may feel ashamed that they are not enough. If a man believes this at the beginning of a relationship, he is likely to get scared and run away.
When I asked happily married men what about their wives that made them think, “Yes, she is the right one,” the answer was often something like, “She never tried to change me.”
Know what to look for in a man and find someone who fits that description.
2. Create emotional security for him.
Creating emotional security means creating a space in which he can express his thoughts, feelings, and desires without feeling judged.
When men say that a woman is good to talk to, they mean that they can say things to her that they would normally not share, because they know that they will not feel judged by her.
Next time your husband has a bad day, complains about his frustrations with a coworker, or tells you something personal, listen to him without judgment.
Notice when it comes to solving a problem, offering help, or just listening. Sometimes people don’t want their problems solved, just want someone to listen and feel safe with them.
3. Let things be easy and playful.
People remember you based on the experiences you share with each other. The more positive and amusing experiences you share, the more someone will associate these feelings with you.
Men and women have different relationship schedules. Women often rush into a relationship quickly and are out to define status and skip many of the beautiful aspects of dating, while men often need a little more time to decide whether to keep the relationship going.
It’s important to keep it easy and playful at the beginning of a relationship because for a guy, even if he really likes you, you are still just dating.
4. Be vulnerable.
The quickest way to have emotional intimacy with someone is to get out of cover and show your vulnerability. When you show someone an unfiltered version of yourself, you are essentially giving them the key to exploring every intimate detail about you, and that is a huge responsibility.
Think about how it feels to gain someone’s trust like this. Unbelievable, is not it?
When you show people your vulnerability, you create the emotional security for a man to do the same.
5. Give him space to run after you.
One of the most common scenarios that I get asked for advice on what to do is when a guy stops chasing you.
The answer is often: “Do nothing.”
When you are in panic mode, you approach things out of fear. I see a lot of women who instantly panic when they think a man is pulling away. They panic if a man doesn’t text or call for a day, or if he seems a little aloof over dinner.
They are afraid that their husband will withdraw and overcompensate for his reserve by trying to take control of the relationship. They start calling the man, making all the plans, overall trying to steer the relationship in the direction they want.
When that happens, it causes a change of roles and without both of them consciously realizing it, the man becomes the one who is being chased.
This shift in dynamics is one that many men do not deal well with and when faced with this situation they often pull back even further.
Give the man you fall in love with space to run after you.
When you create a life that you love, you are creating a life that he wants to be a part of.
