Why do so many couples give up at this point in their relationship

Many couples fail at a certain point in their relationship. They break up because they just can’t get through this phase. In this article you will find out which phase it is that represents a major obstacle for so many couples and which phases there are at all.

We all want to experience that real, raw, deep, lasting, once-in-a-lifetime kind of love. We all want to find that one person who will love us honestly, intensely, unconditionally, and accept us for who we are. We want to find the person who makes us feel loved, respected, and whole. The person who makes our life happier and more meaningful and exciting. We all want to find the one or the one. Also Read (10 Mistakes Women Should Avoid In Relationships)

But the real question is: what happens when you finally find that person?

Many people believe that being in a relationship with the right person should make it easy. They believe love should feel effortless and everything should fall into place naturally. Well, part of it is true, it should at least feel non-toxic and overly complicated, but the relationship can only be “perfect” to a certain extent. Because the truth is love is never a smooth journey.

In total there are 5 phases of love, which all couples go through in part or in some cases even completely. And the reason why many couples end their relationship is because they cannot get through phase 3 and then break up.

Here are the 5 stages of love:

1st phase: passion and infatuation

From the moment you feel those first butterflies in your stomach for someone, to the moment you have that first and unforgettable romantic kiss, and until you become physically intimate for the first time, the first phase is everything about infatuation and passion. 

This is the stage when hormones run rampant and you just can’t stop thinking about the person you’re so deeply in love with. It’s also the stage when you can’t wait to spend time with your partner and hope that time never ends. This phase is easy as everything seems perfect and there are no problems yet. The partners seem to look at everything through rose-tinted glasses. They don’t believe that the other could be faulty. Also Read (Psychologists Say How To Argue In A Relationship, Avoid These 7 Mistakes)

2nd phase: It’s getting serious

At this stage things get serious. It’s the phase where the couple still cuddles during a movie and likes to exchange kisses and hugs when they’re together, but something has changed. Maybe they even moved in together or got married and started a family. In this phase, the connection between the partners becomes deeper and more meaningful. They also feel more comfortable showing each other their vulnerable sides, and most importantly, they feel free and comfortable when they can talk about anything.

3rd phase: Everyday life and real life put love to the test

Now the couple is entering the critical phase. This is the stage when many couples go their separate ways. Because love killer number one enters the relationship – namely everyday life. The honeymoon period is over and the focus has shifted to parenthood, family commitments and work issues. The couple begins to wonder where all the passion and excitement they both used to enjoy has gone.

Although they still remember the good times, they can hardly believe that one could return to them. At this point, many couples say they’re out of breath. The small and seemingly unimportant things you found annoying about your partner now seem like big problems. You start to fight often and get angry about small things. One also feels tense or even trapped. During this phase, many couples wonder if they made the right decision and if they might be better off single. 

4th phase: Acceptance and understanding

If the couple survives phase 3, both partners will begin to see and accept each other for who they really are. In Stage 4, they begin to accept each other’s insecurities, fears, and mistakes. You realize that your partner is not a perfect person and that they have flaws just like you do.

In this phase both are also eager to find ways to both save the relationship and solve personal problems. And both ensure that the relationship is based on mutual acceptance, understanding, patience and compassion.

5th phase: The dream team

After both have accepted each other’s faults and rediscovered each other’s qualities and desires, both partners can work together as a team. In this phase, both realize that they can be happy and fulfilled when they pursue different goals and passions. They both also show that they are willing to work on the relationship together, rekindle the romance flame and keep the love in the partnership alive forever.